Feeling that you are useless?

Everyone does, at times. Similarly, feelings of being hopeless, helpless, pointless or purposeless are all a common feeling. People have been dealing with this since time began. I call these feelings The Enemy.

Let me tell you a little bit about The Enemy, since I have been fighting it longer than many of you, and have won enough fights to know that no matter how many little fights I may lose here in there, I will win in the end. I have come to realize just how important I (and every other person) is. Nothing can ever make me not know that. I want anyone who is getting beat up and dragged down by this bully, The Enemy, to know that there is hope, and we all have the ability to go Chuck Norris on it.

Feeling useless:

A. Is a lie. This is the single most important fact. It is a lie that comes from the darkest corner of your psyche. Don't believe it just because it's there.
Just nod politely (mentally) and say "uh huh, thanks for sharing, Mr. Negative. Now go back to your corner", and go on with life. We all have that dark little corner. That's where the Enemy lives. The Enemy is there in all of us, we're stuck with it, but don't worry. It can be annoying, but never believe that it's actually telling you the truth, or that it is more powerful than you. Never let your spirit be crushed by it. You are stronger than it is! CRUSH IT BACK. How? Go do something useful! Bingo--it was a lie, always was and always will be.
UNLESS

B. Comes from WANTING to be a useless person. You believed the lie, or a similar one. The only way to actually be useless is to choose to be that way. This is self-destructive, because as human beings we need purpose--it's just a built-in thing. If we feel there is no purpose to life, or that our purpose HAS no purpose, we tend to want to destroy it and ourselves--Nihilism. You can be intelligent, talented, rich, loved, and doing what you love to do, but if you feel there is no purpose, it will not be enough, and despair will consume you in the end. Kurt Cobain. Need I say more?

The only way to beat The Enemy is to choose to be useful. It can be as simple as seeing a flower and appreciating it's beauty, it's complexity, and appreciating that it's there, doing its thing. Even this is useful. Even more useful things--a kind word, not getting angry at someone, doing a little something that will help in some way--will have a greater dispelling effect on The Enemy. Send it back to it's little corner, like the nasty, vicious and bad-mannered guest that it is. It wants to destroy you, because it hates itself and wishes it had never existed. The only way that will happen is if you destroy yourself. This is why it is The Enemy. Why give it what it wants?

It may seem that you have no purpose, or that the purpose or use you try to fulfill never comes out right, but I assure you: it only seems that way.

We often do not get to see or understand our purpose at the moment. Life is too great for us to understand all it's works and purposes. Only when we look back we sometimes can see the bigger picture and how we fit in, and what our part was in it. Don't rely on your feelings of the moment to tell you what is true; feelings are an unreliable guide, especially as a youth.

You will be ok, but you have to believe it, and be patient.

One last and KEY THING:

Let others be more important than yourself. Make others your reason to get up in the morning. There is always someone out there who feels more hopeless and lonely than you.
Go out and find them. Help them, and you will be helping yourself. By caring for others, we learn how to care for ourselves, and by helping a person who is struggling, we become more able to face our own struggles.

Hope this helps. If you want to add any ways in which you have beaten The Enemy, go for it. Disagreeing with me and what I said will be quite futile. What I have said is not opinion, no matter what some may say.

P.S. There are many who, knowingly or unknowingly, have given in to The Enemy and work for it, hoping that somehow come it will come out alright, or who no longer care what happens to them or anyone else. That doesn't make those people The Enemy, but it does make them an unreliable source of information, to say the least. Just nod mentally, think "Uh huh, thanks for sharing, Mr. Negative" and go on with your life.

... :( stupid new contacts makeing my eye's water....*rubs eyes

What if a person is making you feel that way and does not know it?